3 ways to build a happy marriage and avoid divorce | George Blair-West

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Choosing to marry and share your life with someone is one of the most important decisions you can make in life. But with divorce rates approaching fifty percent in some parts of the world, it's clear we could use some help picking a partner. In an actionable, eye-opening talk, psychiatrist George Blair-West shares three keys to preventing divorce — and spotting potential problems while you're still dating.

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  1. Me and my wife have been together for 18 years and just got back together three days ago after being separated for 6 months. Divorce was on the docket but we are doing our best to keep this from happening. Things are definitely looking up but it’s still very challenging but it seems to get better every day. We have three children, 2 boys with autism (17 & 3) and our baby girl with Down Syndrome. Our daughter with Down Syndrome had two open heart surgeries fairly recently at 5 months old, then a pacemaker installed. She also has Hirschsprung’s disease which led to her having a colostomy bag installed at five days old. She has several more surgeries to go. If I can say this to anyone, I would tell you do what you need to do to make it work. Sometimes you need to suck it up. You can’t be fickle. Fight for your family. People say you shouldn’t stay together for your children, well that’s fine. But if you still love each other as well as your children and are split due to circumstances or tragedies that have put you in a state of constant depression, stress, about everything you can imagine in this situation like this, then you must come together and not give up. You must keep moving forward and keep on fighting. Many other people have it a lot easier or a lot worse than me/us but I’ve certainly come out of the other side a lot more knowledgeable and appreciative of my wife and all the things our family is capable of when we are a team instead of constantly at odds and bickering. We are learning to get along again and not take our stress out on each other and our kids get to enjoy both of their parents as well. This is what it’s all about. For all of you going through tough times out there, keep your chin up and like I said, don’t stop fighting, don’t lose hope, never lose hope. If you truly care about the other person you’re married to, you can’t lose hope and you need to keep fighting. If you don’t, then it’s time to pack it up and move on. But if you love her or him, keep fighting, HARD! A little patience and understanding and reassurance to your spouse goes a long ways. GOOD LUCK TO YOU ALL! 💪👊

    1. @Leo Lordman But can people forgive? That’s the question. Try to discuss it with Lord Jesus. He is the only one who absolutely knows people’s hearts and feelings.
      God bless you!

  2. Having a partner that supports you on your journey to success can have a big influence! I found this very valuable! ❤

    1. lamcho00 You’re absolutely right. We should be supportive of our other half through the good times and bad times.

    2. Cheers for the Video! Forgive me for butting in, I would appreciate your initial thoughts. Have you heard the talk about – Taparton Saving Family Takeover (Sure I saw it on Google)? It is an awesome one of a kind guide for helping a troubled marriage minus the headache. Ive heard some great things about it and my m8 finally got cool results with it.

    3. @EnekonGaming right! You don’t want to marry anyone that’s unable to think about what’s best for the two people desiring marriage. See a person convinced that it’s about them and how they think things should go….the marriage is doomed.

  3. A good, strong marriage is the absolute best thing in the world. The problem is the world is currently doing everything it can to make it impossible.

    1. Kudos for the video content! Forgive me for the intrusion, I would appreciate your thoughts. Have you heard about – Taparton Saving Family Takeover (should be on google have a look)? It is a good one off guide for helping a troubled marriage minus the headache. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my buddy at last got great success with it.

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  4. Well I would say that I do agree, but there is more to say, *DO NOT BE ANGRY WHILE TALKING TO YOUR PARTNER* small things leads to divorce.

    1. Lies and Infidelity is a very serious issue to deal with and it’s a major threat to most marriages and relationships.Scars left behind from a narcissist husband is hard to erase from the mind. I was reluctant at first about finding the truth about my cheating husband but I’m glad I finally took the courage for it .I got help from Cyber Hack Solutions as he helped clone my cheating husband’s phone and I got access to all his phone call logs, emails, text messages both deleted texts and also social media chats; whatsApp , Facebook, Instagram without having access to his phone because he is mostly out of town due to the nature of his work and I was able to track his location too, all I provided was his phone number to this wonderful hacker. This was very revealing for me as he’s a serial cheater until I got into his phone and ended things.I’m glad to uncover his, lies, secrets and Infidelity. You can contact this amazing Hacker David via gmail (cyberhack003) or text and call on his phone and WhatsApp : +15303784744

    2. she having slept with about 3000000 guys before she married you leads to divorce, you guys cant even fucking trust each other. disgusting

    3. Yes, married people fight and it’s necessary. But staying respectful and kind even when having disagreements is crucial. Set boundaries and keep them.
      Don’t use a marital argument as an excuse to emotionally abuse your spouse. There is a cost to violating boundaries.

    1. So, being “married” to my singlehander’s yacht, having a side kick named Moto Guzzi and regularly changing bedroom flings’s supposed to make me happy?

    2. @C Longshanks I can tell You from experience: The absence of that nagging menace is the bigger part of a lucky man, no matter yacht, racecar or motorbike ….

    1. Makes me listen to him, thought in Germany (the country of getting marriage advice from your tax consultant) getting deep conversion is less difficult.

  5. best way to build a happy marriage is to bake together. baking is the secret. trust me. bake breads that require lots of kneading and processes. try variations of french baguettes.

    1. Appreciate Video clip! Sorry for chiming in, I am interested in your thoughts. Have you heard the talk about – Taparton Saving Family Takeover (Sure I saw it on Google)? It is an awesome one off product for helping a troubled marriage minus the headache. Ive heard some decent things about it and my cooworker at very last got cool results with it.

  6. A huge request to the authors of the channel, please turn on the Russian subtitles. There is no place for sanctions in scientific works! Thank!

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    2. I’m researching improving your marriage and discovered an awesome website at Pavs partner pundit (look it up on google)

    3. There are several ideas for saving your marriage
      Try to discuss more
      Cooperate with each other more
      Try to give and take more
      (I read these and why they work on Pavs Partner Pundit website )

    4. here’s several suggestions for saving your partnership
      Try to discuss more
      Cooperate with each other more
      Try to give and take more
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    5. I’m researching saving your marriage and found an awesome resource at Pavs Partner Pundit (google it if you’re interested)

  7. Often ignored piece of advice: Don’t be emotionally dependent on your partner and/or don’t be in a relationship with someone who is emotionally dependent on you.
    I don’t mean emotionally attached; that’s different (and positive).
    I mean thought processes along the lines of ‘My partner is the reason I’m not in a state of depression or suicidal thoughts’ or ‘I’m not a productive member of society without my partner’.

    1. I have always suspected my wife was cheating on me. We have been married for 15 years now and its been a smooth ride until last year when she changed and started seeing other men. A friend of mine linked me up with a great hacker Cyber Hack who helped me hack into her phone, I had complete access to her phone right on my device and I could monitor all her activities for the past 2years and also have access to new notifications, her location, call logs, text messages and all. I was left with no other choice.I loved my wife so much and I just dont know why she chose to betray me, I have been a good husband and never for once cheated on her. I tracked her down to a hotel where I found her with another man . You can contact them at cyberhack003 at gmail or Whatsapp +15303784744 or text and call them directly on the same number.They helped me get access into her phone without even touching her phone.I have enough evidence against my wife now and I am thinking of Filing for divorce. I want advice from men and other women on here, should I give her another chance because of our kids or file for divorce ? We have a 4months old baby.

      People will forget what you SAID .People will forget what you DID But they will NEVER forget how you made them FEEL.

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    3. There are several ideas for making improvements in your marriage
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  8. Probably one of the most thoughtful comment sections I’ve seen on youtube. Cheers to the informed, analytical and skeptical – millennials or otherwise!

  9. I am a 39 year old male and I found happiness with my wife who is 40 years old 10 years ago. We met when i was completing my PhD and she was a graduate student. She divorced an incompetent man wherein made her miserable. We are so compatible and I thank God for her. She is everything, I mean everything i ever wanted in a woman. I do my best for her. Well, what i am trying to say it’s all about trust. We even share online accounts, everything is transparency within us. I think it’s where it all starts. Respect and transparency.

    1. I don’t know about the sharing accounts bit. For me personally, I believe there has to be some level of privacy, along with each of us being their own person. Of course we should be transparent when needs be about that privacy, and clear any existing doubts, but sharing every single thing isn’t always good, and that does not mean that one is hiding something, or one is cheating, etc.

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  11. After five years of marriage i found out the one thing that makes marriage difficult is financial struggle, its not like my husband and i aren’t making money it’s just we barely have time for each other and there’s no amusement or new event it’s just work and the kids and that was fine but i wanted more..then i heard of a financial advisor on the radio who basically makes money for me and right now i have close to 100grand with her in my portfolio. now we pay for our vacation without breaking a sweat or losing sleep

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      1st red flag, u put a specific number of $100,000 which I guess is no big deal but most people would go with “we have became financially stable, and now able to go on vacations etc etc and saying the number grabs more peoples attention,
      2nd and by far the biggest red flag, Financial advisors make 0.5 – 2% commission so they usually require $100,000 minimum to even take you on. So me personally, I rate this a level 8 scam or it’s partially true with who the person is but not true on the amount you have invested or your the same person, referring people from this account and responding as the advisor . 🤷🏼‍♂️

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